NO, to be honest – having some guy climb up your hair sounds both painful and demeaning.
If there was a knight – I wanted him to shout up to me, the belief there is a way out…
To give me the confidence there is a door and staircase, just at present I can’t see it…
And for the knight to encourage me to find it, NOT climb my hair as though I’m helpless.
Then it would become MY CHOICE to leave the tower…
So that is what I did – I developed my relationship to consciousness, I became the knight as well as Rapunzel, I no longer waited for someone else to fix it…
If I did, I would still be waiting – waiting for too many so called passing knights, tugging at my hair, leaving my-self wide open for the narcissistic ones to decide to climb my metaphorical hair…
Some Jennas are very content in that role. She waits her whole life for the knight to save her. She won’t change anything or even try to. She just hopes positive thinking is the only thing she needs. She continues to look for the drug-rush of the chaotic, passionate relationship, to find they disappear on her at her most vulnerable moment.
She then calls everyone to find out how she can entice the wayward boyfriend back, have the snide friend like her, how she can have everything different but doesn’t want to do anything different, she bores the brains out of everyone she knows – for YEARS as to why nothing changes…
Then wonders why her real friends back off from her, feel emotional FOR her, when she goes off to find yet another ‘knight’ – who is just as abusive as the previous one.
Some Jennas consciously know they’re a Jenna… but they want to change. But mostly, they just don’t (yet) know how. They want to be a Sarah — if they only knew how.
There’s still hope for those Jennas.
Sarahs build an inner empire.
Some Sarahs build a masterpiece. Some their own business, some their perfect idea of the life they want to create, some just want it simple, they’re happy with simply the ability to feel better.
…but, and this is critical, the essence of a Sarah is always the same; building your inner world is a “process”.