This is Part 3 of a 3-part series on Healing Empathic Overwhelm, Stress and Fatigue:
- Part 1 – Get Rid of Your Noisy ‘Fridge Head’ Once and For All (Article)
- Part 2 – How to Recognise When Your Gut is Blocked with Overwhelm (Video)
- Part 3 – [You are here] How to Solve Overwhelm without Therapy (Meditation)
- Bonus – How the mind and body connect, drama and how it engages empathic overload (Video)
“I can’t do it. My head won’t keep still.”
Cary tried a moment of stillness. She sat shuffling around on her bed, she sat on the floor, then in a chair. Her back ached on the floor, she’d just fallen asleep lying down, and had a sudden attack of itchy skin whilst trying to meditate in the chair.
“Nothing is working, this is ridiculous. I’m not built for meditation.”
Cary’s life screamed out for more peace. Deadlines looming, she was uncertain as to if her current relationship status was ‘in a relationship’ or ‘currently on a break’, she’d lost track of her boyfriend’s indecision. She’d fallen behind on the ambitious course she’d taken up and was now feeling life was all too much.
Distracted, she got up and started work.
The rules of life mean…
In order to solve something we should divert our attention with other activities, do something else when we feel uncomfortable.
Our mind, even though it’s the back of our mind, remains focussed on what it’s not been able to solve. It sits there festering, gathering mould like a forgotten lettuce at the bottom of the fridge. After a while, it begins to ‘smell’ and demand our attention.
The ‘smell’ is stress.
Overwhelm develops, it demands our attention.
For Cary, it was the ups and downs of her relationship. The decisions she didn’t want to make, the courses she was doing in order to make her feel better were in fact too much work for her current situation.
She asked me how to solve it.
I took her through a simple meditation process, to ask her inner world a crucial question.
What did Cary’s inner self want from the relationship?
She wanted to feel connection, someone to talk to without feeling she was in a war zone or interrogation.
When she meditated on specifically the true subject, without distraction tactics, her body remained incredibly calm. She saw instantly what she needed to do…
How to Solve Overwhelm without Therapy Meditation is here for you:
If this is your first meditation you have ever done with me please start with this ‘Relaxation Meditation’ here first: