This is Part 4 of a 7-part series on ‘Hole In Your Sole’:
- Part 1 – Dustbin of the Mind (Article & Meditation)
- Part 2 – Healing Your Drama Triangle (Article & Meditation)
- Part 3 – The Confidence to Feel Your Feelings (Article & Meditation)
- Part 4 – [You are here] How The Sensitive Personality Types Let Go (Article & Meditation)
- Part 5 – What Do Other People Think? (Article & Meditation)
- Part 6 – The Power of Observe (Article & Meditation)
- Part 7 – Healing The Inner Child (Article & Meditation)
PART OF DEVELOPING as a sensitive is learning some of the key aspects of letting go and letting things be. Naturally as we progress this is something that becomes easier to do but we all get a little stuck in our old ways with a reluctance to change.
There are several different types of Intuitive Sensitives. The speed at which you are comfortable releasing old patterning and accepting new adjustments will depend on the type of sensitive you are. The majority of sensitives share some of the fundamentals of the intuitive sensitive make-up. You will find you need a significant amount of relaxation, for instance, in order for a sense of wellbeing – much more so than the average person! You go shopping, for example, then find it difficult to muster enough energy to go out for the evening. This is because your system is prone to over arousal and takes time to recover. Check out your traits…
- You withdraw after a short while at a social function.
- You find busy places increasingly exhausting.
- You are easily able to pick up on the thoughts and feelings of others.
- You feel rejection often and seek to avoid it.
- You have stomach issues, such as food sensitivity.
- You have a strong feeling of ‘purpose’ but don’t know what it is.
- You have a concern for other people often putting them ahead of yourself.
- You know how people feel before they’ve told you.
- Strangers confess their life story or tell you things they don’t tell other people.
- You have a strong fascination with discovering the unseen world.
- You have a strong desire to help people.
- Negativity ‘hurts’ you at a deep level, often creating exhaustion.
There are four main traits of the sensitive. You will fall mostly into one area. With each type comes a different means of protecting your energy and building your ability. Letting go is a crucial part of this process. See from the four types below which energy you feel the most aligned with. Your process of ‘letting go’ should be respected in terms of the particular ‘type’ that you are.
1. The Nurturer type
The nurturer sensitive looks after everyone but themselves.
They are fantastic caretakers and have tremendous concern for their friends and family. They worry about their family or their elderly parents. They find it difficult to accept change and like to think back to the past rather than be present in the here and now. They have lots of ideas and a great sense of purpose but lack the confidence to put their plans into action. Often from backgrounds where they were presented with situations forcing them to be an adult before their childhood had finished, they have an over developed sense of responsibility and feel guilty as soon as they want to change anything in their life. Letting go is a struggle for the nurturer type. They know they should, and do as much as they can, but get trapped in the belief that letting go means things change to the point of no return. That prospect is very frightening for them, and so they try to keep with what is familiar. This means they struggle to let go of things that no longer work for them unless they can guarantee a certain outcome. However, we all know there are no guarantees in life. What works best for the nurturer is letting go in little pieces. As they gather confidence they get brave and start to let go ‘in style’!
2. The Thinker type
The thinker sensitive is very highly intuitive but does not trust their own intuition for fear of criticism.
They have very clear abilities in terms of what is truth and what is perception within the motives of those around them. They do though lack any sense of belief in their own skills. They seek approval from their peers and ‘check’ too many times if they are doing things correctly rather than trust their own judgement. They over-analyse and this holds up their intuitive skills. They collect qualifications or do more and more courses but fail to implement what they’ve learnt unless constantly encouraged. Letting go for the thinker type means letting go of resentment, and this means they have to acknowledge it first. The thinker type has a variety of old angers stored in their system. This is hidden from immediate view and only surfaces when they feel cornered. The thinker type withdraws to lick their wounds and keep old hurts alive. Holding onto old ways of doing things and identifying the self in terms of the victim energy is non productive in the long-term. The thinker type has huge potential for tremendous wisdom if only they would be willing enough to let go and drop the ‘overly’ sensitive viewpoint. Once they do, they flourish in terms of massive contribution to the greater whole.
3. The Talker type
The talker sensitive can’t keep quiet. They talk their way through problems in order to find a solution.
They are more willing to experiment in terms of their intuitive skills than any of the other type. They commit themselves to self improvement but will often spend too much time talking and not enough time implementing. The talker type finds it easy to absorb and interpret information. They are avid readers. They can give a varied views on many topics. They like to be part of a group and flourish in a social setting with likeminded people, but they can become very bogged down by negativity or people who seek to manipulate. Part of the learning process of the talker type sensitive is to let go of relationships where others operate control tactics, whether physical or emotional.
Talker type sensitives go through relationship changes. Those relationship changes are both in the romantic sense and friendships. Their psyche will absolutely seek balance and avoid compromise…and this part of the journey can be a little lonely. The talker types trusts their deepest instincts and may rely heavily on their inner guidance. They find it easier than the thinker and nurturer to trust themselves enough to let go. They trust more in the change process and the necessities of it. Talker types are more equipped to let go easily so should take the plunge and make dramatic changes rather than small ones. ‘Get it over with and deal with the consequences later’ is their motto. This can be hard for some of the other types of sensitive so the talker often find themselves moving forward alone.
4. The Trailblazer type
The trailblazer wants quick results and yesterday.
They are competitive and have learnt to protect their sensitive nature. They are quick to read another person’s energy and rely heavily on clairvoyant skills rather than their feeler senses. They come in, create a stir and leave again. They are full of energy but tire quickly in a heavy environment and need to retreat. They have poor concentration skills and need constant stimulation. Trailblazer types have a heightened energy and may find sleep difficult. They have a profound ability to read people and situations accurately but trust very few. They believe in themselves much more and much sooner in their development than the other types.
The Trailblazer sensitive finds it easy to detach and help others in a practical sense but can lack a level of sympathy if a person needs to nurture a wound for a while. Letting go for the trailblazer is quite easy. They have a willingness to let things go and live in the present. They do need to be a little more forgiving and resist the desire for revenge. The purpose for a trailblazer is to help others gain the courage to release old patterns. The trailblazer sensitive finds it tempting to judge that process and hurry someone along. Sometimes this is inappropriate and the trailblazer needs to learn patience, sympathy and understanding. The trailblazer’s purpose is to let go of the desire to control outcomes.
You are now ready for the meditation: