What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?
The problem is you've idealised what love is.
The issue is you become obsessed with emotionally dangerous people.
The solution is to recognise when it's genuine charisma.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You think the problem is that you did something wrong.
You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own.
You question is constantly
“ what’s wrong with me? ”
The real issue isn’t that you’re unlovable or that you did something wrong.
The issue is - you’ve idealised what love is.
In this episode we are resolving:
You’ll discover…
Sometimes people actively try to make something an obsession. That’s emotionally dangerous because it sneaks up on you.
If someone is trying to create obsession, they’re trying to make you lose control and become compulsive about them.
Why would they do that? So they can have control later. (This isn’t unique to romantic relationships.)
Their self-worth isn’t high enough for them to believe someone would want to be around them, so they intentionally manipulate charismatic dynamics because that makes a partner less likely to leave them.
First of all, you have to understand why you would get drawn to this scenario.
You are most susceptible when you’re suspicious and offish
Why? Because it presents someone with creepy charisma a challenge. The challenge becomes to switch you.
They know you’re wary because of past experiences, so they become everything you would have wanted - someone to be attentive to you, to push beyond your defensiveness.
Once you’re no longer defensive, they then start to use you and you begin to lose confidence in yourself. You believe, somehow, you got sucked in.
The key is to release that defensiveness, because you’re then open to kind, gentle dynamics, but without losing your insight.
Then you can relax enough to feel genuine connection, a genuine charisma.
The moment you start to judge someone how has a creepy charisma agenda is the moment you become susceptible to their manipulation
Why? because when you judge rather than observe you lose insight.
What I found I got sucked into for a long time was feeling I always had to be prepared for an attack’.
That doesn’t work, because you end up putting huge stress on your own body.
It will take a few goes – BUT
you will begin to feel you can step away from love obsession -
the feeling of pounding something through and through your head
Remember it’s not about perfect.
It’s about progress.
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?
The problem is you've idealised what love is.
The issue is you become obsessed with emotionally dangerous people.
The solution is to recognise when it's genuine charisma.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You think the problem is that you did something wrong.
You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own.
You question is constantly
“ what’s wrong with me? ”
The real issue isn’t that you’re unlovable or that you did something wrong.
The issue is - you’ve idealised what love is.
In this episode we are resolving:
You’ll discover…
Sometimes people actively try to make something an obsession. That’s emotionally dangerous because it sneaks up on you.
If someone is trying to create obsession, they’re trying to make you lose control and become compulsive about them.
Why would they do that? So they can have control later. (This isn’t unique to romantic relationships.)
Their self-worth isn’t high enough for them to believe someone would want to be around them, so they intentionally manipulate charismatic dynamics because that makes a partner less likely to leave them.
First of all, you have to understand why you would get drawn to this scenario.
You are most susceptible when you’re suspicious and offish
Why? Because it presents someone with creepy charisma a challenge. The challenge becomes to switch you.
They know you’re wary because of past experiences, so they become everything you would have wanted - someone to be attentive to you, to push beyond your defensiveness.
Once you’re no longer defensive, they then start to use you and you begin to lose confidence in yourself. You believe, somehow, you got sucked in.
The key is to release that defensiveness, because you’re then open to kind, gentle dynamics, but without losing your insight.
Then you can relax enough to feel genuine connection, a genuine charisma.
The moment you start to judge someone how has a creepy charisma agenda is the moment you become susceptible to their manipulation
Why? because when you judge rather than observe you lose insight.
What I found I got sucked into for a long time was feeling I always had to be prepared for an attack’.
That doesn’t work, because you end up putting huge stress on your own body.
It will take a few goes – BUT
you will begin to feel you can step away from love obsession -
the feeling of pounding something through and through your head
Remember it’s not about perfect.
It’s about progress.
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
Even if you’ve been feeling lost or overwhelmed by your emotions, this workshop will guide you to a place of emotional stability and strength.
When the Magician energy is active, you have the ability to transform reality. It’s as though a magnetic field draws you to experiences that match your inner reality.
The Magician energy chooses you to connect with your healing potential and give you access to the unconscious world of wonderment, charm and the deeply connected spiritual self.
When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
If you are frustrated because you keep attracting difficult people into your life, the Love YOUR Life show will help. Fans of the show are ecstatic about the fun and entertaining way Heidi Sawyer brings you practical advice to help you recognise unhealthy dynamics and get your life back on track after being affected by controlling relationship(s).