Love Obsession: Are They Charismatic or A Creep

Love Obsession: Are They Charismatic or A Creep

What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?

Audio Only Version of the Video Above:

The problem is you've idealised what love is.

The issue is you become obsessed with emotionally dangerous people.

The solution is to recognise when it's genuine charisma.

During this 30 minute session you will learn:

  • When It's Obsession
  • How to Recognise Creepy Charisma
  • How to Recognise Genuine Charisma

​Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.

You think the problem is that you did something wrong. 

You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own.

You question is constantly

“ what’s wrong with me? ”

The real issue isn’t that you’re unlovable or that you did something wrong.

The issue is -  you’ve idealised what love is.

In this episode we are resolving:

Love Obsession: Are they Charismatic or a Creep?

You’ll discover…

  • When Is It Obsession?
  • How To Recognise Creepy Charisma
  • What Does Genuine Charisma Look Like?

First, how do you recognise when it’s obsession?

Sometimes people actively try to make something an obsession.  That’s emotionally dangerous because it sneaks up on you.

If someone is trying to create obsession, they’re trying to make you lose control and become compulsive about them.

Why would they do that? So they can have control later.  (This isn’t unique to romantic relationships.)

Their self-worth isn’t high enough for them to believe someone would want to be around them, so they intentionally manipulate charismatic dynamics because that makes a partner less likely to leave them.

So, how do you recognise when it’s creepy charisma?

First of all, you have to understand why you would get drawn to this scenario.

You are most susceptible when you’re suspicious and offish

Why? Because it presents someone with creepy charisma a challenge. The challenge becomes to switch you.

They know you’re wary because of past experiences, so they become everything you would have wanted - someone to be attentive to you, to push beyond your  defensiveness.

Once you’re no longer defensive, they then start to use you and you begin to lose confidence in yourself.  You believe, somehow, you got sucked in.

So, how to your start to recognise and attract genuine charisma?

The key is to release that defensiveness, because you’re then open to kind, gentle dynamics, but without losing your insight.

Then you can relax enough to feel genuine connection, a genuine charisma.

The moment you start to judge someone how has a creepy charisma agenda is the moment you become susceptible to their manipulation

Why? because when you judge rather than observe you lose insight.

What I found I got sucked into for a long time was feeling I always had to be prepared for an attack’.

That doesn’t work, because you end up putting huge stress on your own body.

So what are three little things you can do to move beyond feeling caught in love obsession and the potential of creepy charisma?

  1. If you can’t relax around someone, take responsibility for your part in that unease. If you’re still uncomfortable, it’s not your imagination - there IS something that isn’t right.
  2. Heal your defence patterns. Have you been wondering where all the nice people are? Truth is - they’re not attracted to defensiveness.
  3. Expect repeat behaviours. If someone is nice or if someone is mean to you, expect them to repeat that behaviour. Don’t be surprised or offended if they behave the same way again.

It will take a few goes – BUT

you will begin to feel you can step away from love obsession - 

the feeling of pounding something through and through your head

Remember it’s not about perfect.

It’s about progress.

Part 2:
Accompanying Meditation

Releasing Obsession Meditation

Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.

Complete The Meditation Now
Releasing Obsession Meditation
Part 2:
Accompanying Episode

Releasing Obsession Meditation

What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?

Watch The Episode Now
Releasing Obsession Meditation
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The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.

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The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .

Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

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Love Obsession: Are They Charismatic or A Creep

What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?

Get The Full Experience:

Audio Only Version of the Video Above:

The problem is you've idealised what love is.

The issue is you become obsessed with emotionally dangerous people.

The solution is to recognise when it's genuine charisma.

During this 30 minute session you will learn:

  • When It's Obsession
  • How to Recognise Creepy Charisma
  • How to Recognise Genuine Charisma

​Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.

Meditation Only:

You think the problem is that you did something wrong. 

You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own.

You question is constantly

“ what’s wrong with me? ”

The real issue isn’t that you’re unlovable or that you did something wrong.

The issue is -  you’ve idealised what love is.

In this episode we are resolving:

Love Obsession: Are they Charismatic or a Creep?

You’ll discover…

  • When Is It Obsession?
  • How To Recognise Creepy Charisma
  • What Does Genuine Charisma Look Like?

First, how do you recognise when it’s obsession?

Sometimes people actively try to make something an obsession.  That’s emotionally dangerous because it sneaks up on you.

If someone is trying to create obsession, they’re trying to make you lose control and become compulsive about them.

Why would they do that? So they can have control later.  (This isn’t unique to romantic relationships.)

Their self-worth isn’t high enough for them to believe someone would want to be around them, so they intentionally manipulate charismatic dynamics because that makes a partner less likely to leave them.

So, how do you recognise when it’s creepy charisma?

First of all, you have to understand why you would get drawn to this scenario.

You are most susceptible when you’re suspicious and offish

Why? Because it presents someone with creepy charisma a challenge. The challenge becomes to switch you.

They know you’re wary because of past experiences, so they become everything you would have wanted - someone to be attentive to you, to push beyond your  defensiveness.

Once you’re no longer defensive, they then start to use you and you begin to lose confidence in yourself.  You believe, somehow, you got sucked in.

So, how to your start to recognise and attract genuine charisma?

The key is to release that defensiveness, because you’re then open to kind, gentle dynamics, but without losing your insight.

Then you can relax enough to feel genuine connection, a genuine charisma.

The moment you start to judge someone how has a creepy charisma agenda is the moment you become susceptible to their manipulation

Why? because when you judge rather than observe you lose insight.

What I found I got sucked into for a long time was feeling I always had to be prepared for an attack’.

That doesn’t work, because you end up putting huge stress on your own body.

So what are three little things you can do to move beyond feeling caught in love obsession and the potential of creepy charisma?

  1. If you can’t relax around someone, take responsibility for your part in that unease. If you’re still uncomfortable, it’s not your imagination - there IS something that isn’t right.
  2. Heal your defence patterns. Have you been wondering where all the nice people are? Truth is - they’re not attracted to defensiveness.
  3. Expect repeat behaviours. If someone is nice or if someone is mean to you, expect them to repeat that behaviour. Don’t be surprised or offended if they behave the same way again.

It will take a few goes – BUT

you will begin to feel you can step away from love obsession - 

the feeling of pounding something through and through your head

Remember it’s not about perfect.

It’s about progress.

Part 2:
Accompanying Meditation

Releasing Obsession Meditation

Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.

Complete The Meditation Now
Releasing Obsession Meditation
Part 2:
Accompanying Episode

Releasing Obsession Meditation

What if you think the problem is that you did something wrong? You constantly obsess over what you should have done differently, and become defensive when someone suggests the fault might lie with your lover’s or partner’s behaviour, rather than your own?

Watch The Episode Now
Releasing Obsession Meditation
Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

Get FREE Access Now To The

Orphan Archetype Workshop

When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.

The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.

Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

Get FREE Access Now To The

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  • Why spotting the "dominator" (control-driven behaviour) in yourself and others is key to breaking free from controlling dynamics
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Lover Archetype Workshop

When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.

The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.

Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

Get FREE Access Now To The

King Archetype Workshop

When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.

The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .

Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

Get FREE Access Now To The

Queen Archetype Workshop

You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?

This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.

If you are frustrated because you keep attracting difficult people into your life, the Love YOUR Life show will help. Fans of the show are ecstatic about the fun and entertaining way Heidi Sawyer brings you practical advice to help you recognise unhealthy dynamics and get your life back on track after being affected by controlling relationship(s).

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