Secure vs Insecure Feelings

Secure vs Insecure Feelings

Discover your secure self and you’ll start to release insecurity with the deep process simulation meditation.

Audio Only Version of the Video Above:

The problem is opportunities pass over you. The issue is insecure feelings leave you unsure of yourself. The solution is to reveal the unconscious world to instantly access support, comfort and protection.

During this 30 minute session you will learn:

  • How to Recognise Insecure Feelings
  • How to Recognise Secure Feelings
  • Why You Should Never "Just Get Over It"

​Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.

What if the problem is opportunities pass over you?

The issue is insecure feelings leave you unsure of yourself. The solution is to reveal the unconscious world to instantly access support, comfort and protection.

During this session you will learn:

  • How To Recognise Insecure Feelings
  • How To Recognise Secure Feelings
  • Why You Should Never “Just Get Over It”

Even if you’re usually withdrawn and shy.

How do you recognise secure feelings when you’re so used to insecurity?

It’s normal isn’t it – for people to joke or criticise?

They’re just having fun.  Or offering constructive criticism.

You’re used to it – people have ‘joked’ all your life.

So if it’s normal, why does it make you feel so uncomfortable inside?

So, let’s look  now at recognising insecure feelings, discerning secure feelings and understanding why you should never just “get over it” .

First of all, you need to recognise what insecurity looks like

For you, insecurity didn’t happen overnight.

Looking back through your life, for insecurity to be there, there will have been emotional or verbal abuse over a consistent period of time.

Why this insecurity?  Because on-going critical words, destroying self-esteem and replacing it with a toxic inner critic.

That critic judges you as defective – till internalised toxic shame means you’re reluctant to ask for attention or express yourself in ways that draws attention.

If you DO happen to express yourself, you’re worried for ever more you’ve made yourself open and vulnerable.

You’re metaphorically ducking to avoid the inevitability of attack.

If it doesn’t come, it becomes a self-attack that translates into self-abandonment – your inner critic then dominates your self-talk.

You then berate yourself for how useless or incapable you are.  “Oh I couldn’t possibly do that:  I’d never be good enough”.

So how do you move to secure feelings?  What do those look like?

For you to feel genuinely secure – your child self (yes, you do have one!) needs to feel support, comfort and protection.

If any of those were missing when you were a child, your inner critic will use that loophole because . . .  well, why not?  It’s wide open.  It’s like a little kid, open to the world of a bully.

And this is why you should never “just get over it”.

Doing that denies your inner world the opportunity for secure feelings.

You risk the inner critic having the last word and the rest of you becoming numb.

What are the steps you can take to stop feeling insecure and step into feeling your secure options?

I found that what I got sucked into for a long time was believing other people’s criticism, over and above my own rationale.

Your own rationale pretty much always knows when something is true or not.

But you start to assume you’re in denial and the other person must be 100% right – rather than you take in only the parts that resonate with you.

People who genuinely want to help you will do or say the minimum to hurt you.  They’ll highlight issues only to help, never to humiliate -  and they’ll always add a positive.

So what are three little things you can do to minimise feeling caught in the world of insecurity?

  1. When you feel insecure, ask yourself which of three secure triggers is calling to be activated:

       • Support

        • Comfort

        • Protection

  1. Notice the numbness come over you and how you place it:

        • If it’s Support you need – you’ll look for approval

        • If it’s Comfort you need – you’ll eat / drink to comfort the numbness

       • If it’s Protection you need – you’ll withdraw

If you notice how you place the reaction, you can choose to change it.

  1. Step out from being the victim by asking yourself:

        • What I am doing or about to do -  is it helping or harming me?

Asking that question puts you back in control of your decision-making.

Insecurity prevents you from being in control of your own decisions.

It will take a few goes - 

 but you will soon start to feel more in control of your own decisions.

Jung said: 

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

When you are able to make the unconscious conscious at will you have the choice:

“Do I pop this bubble of an unconscious pattern or do I swallow it back down?”

When you ‘pop’ your unwanted unconscious patterns, they are no longer a part of you, and so it becomes impossible to magnetise that unwanted pattern’s negative energy into your life.

So how do you free yourself from unwanted unconscious patterns?

The vibration of insecurity is active in your unconscious (otherwise you would have clicked away ages ago!).

The following meditation has been specifically crafted  to minimise your feelings of being caught in a world of insecurity.

This meditation will fast-track you out of numbness created by insecurity and give you the ability to ‘pop’ the unwanted unconscious pattern of insecurity.   

Even if you’ve never done a meditation before – it’s fine:  just follow the words.

You have time – there is always time for something THIS important.

Part 2:
Accompanying Meditation

What You Really Feel Meditation

Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.

Complete The Meditation Now
What You Really Feel Meditation
Part 2:
Accompanying Episode

What You Really Feel Meditation

Discover your secure self and you’ll start to release insecurity with the deep process simulation meditation.

Watch The Episode Now
What You Really Feel Meditation
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The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.

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The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .

Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

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This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.

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Secure vs Insecure Feelings

Discover your secure self and you’ll start to release insecurity with the deep process simulation meditation.

Get The Full Experience:

Audio Only Version of the Video Above:

The problem is opportunities pass over you. The issue is insecure feelings leave you unsure of yourself. The solution is to reveal the unconscious world to instantly access support, comfort and protection.

During this 30 minute session you will learn:

  • How to Recognise Insecure Feelings
  • How to Recognise Secure Feelings
  • Why You Should Never "Just Get Over It"

​Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.

Meditation Only:

What if the problem is opportunities pass over you?

The issue is insecure feelings leave you unsure of yourself. The solution is to reveal the unconscious world to instantly access support, comfort and protection.

During this session you will learn:

  • How To Recognise Insecure Feelings
  • How To Recognise Secure Feelings
  • Why You Should Never “Just Get Over It”

Even if you’re usually withdrawn and shy.

How do you recognise secure feelings when you’re so used to insecurity?

It’s normal isn’t it – for people to joke or criticise?

They’re just having fun.  Or offering constructive criticism.

You’re used to it – people have ‘joked’ all your life.

So if it’s normal, why does it make you feel so uncomfortable inside?

So, let’s look  now at recognising insecure feelings, discerning secure feelings and understanding why you should never just “get over it” .

First of all, you need to recognise what insecurity looks like

For you, insecurity didn’t happen overnight.

Looking back through your life, for insecurity to be there, there will have been emotional or verbal abuse over a consistent period of time.

Why this insecurity?  Because on-going critical words, destroying self-esteem and replacing it with a toxic inner critic.

That critic judges you as defective – till internalised toxic shame means you’re reluctant to ask for attention or express yourself in ways that draws attention.

If you DO happen to express yourself, you’re worried for ever more you’ve made yourself open and vulnerable.

You’re metaphorically ducking to avoid the inevitability of attack.

If it doesn’t come, it becomes a self-attack that translates into self-abandonment – your inner critic then dominates your self-talk.

You then berate yourself for how useless or incapable you are.  “Oh I couldn’t possibly do that:  I’d never be good enough”.

So how do you move to secure feelings?  What do those look like?

For you to feel genuinely secure – your child self (yes, you do have one!) needs to feel support, comfort and protection.

If any of those were missing when you were a child, your inner critic will use that loophole because . . .  well, why not?  It’s wide open.  It’s like a little kid, open to the world of a bully.

And this is why you should never “just get over it”.

Doing that denies your inner world the opportunity for secure feelings.

You risk the inner critic having the last word and the rest of you becoming numb.

What are the steps you can take to stop feeling insecure and step into feeling your secure options?

I found that what I got sucked into for a long time was believing other people’s criticism, over and above my own rationale.

Your own rationale pretty much always knows when something is true or not.

But you start to assume you’re in denial and the other person must be 100% right – rather than you take in only the parts that resonate with you.

People who genuinely want to help you will do or say the minimum to hurt you.  They’ll highlight issues only to help, never to humiliate -  and they’ll always add a positive.

So what are three little things you can do to minimise feeling caught in the world of insecurity?

  1. When you feel insecure, ask yourself which of three secure triggers is calling to be activated:

       • Support

        • Comfort

        • Protection

  1. Notice the numbness come over you and how you place it:

        • If it’s Support you need – you’ll look for approval

        • If it’s Comfort you need – you’ll eat / drink to comfort the numbness

       • If it’s Protection you need – you’ll withdraw

If you notice how you place the reaction, you can choose to change it.

  1. Step out from being the victim by asking yourself:

        • What I am doing or about to do -  is it helping or harming me?

Asking that question puts you back in control of your decision-making.

Insecurity prevents you from being in control of your own decisions.

It will take a few goes - 

 but you will soon start to feel more in control of your own decisions.

Jung said: 

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

When you are able to make the unconscious conscious at will you have the choice:

“Do I pop this bubble of an unconscious pattern or do I swallow it back down?”

When you ‘pop’ your unwanted unconscious patterns, they are no longer a part of you, and so it becomes impossible to magnetise that unwanted pattern’s negative energy into your life.

So how do you free yourself from unwanted unconscious patterns?

The vibration of insecurity is active in your unconscious (otherwise you would have clicked away ages ago!).

The following meditation has been specifically crafted  to minimise your feelings of being caught in a world of insecurity.

This meditation will fast-track you out of numbness created by insecurity and give you the ability to ‘pop’ the unwanted unconscious pattern of insecurity.   

Even if you’ve never done a meditation before – it’s fine:  just follow the words.

You have time – there is always time for something THIS important.

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Part 2:
Accompanying Meditation

What You Really Feel Meditation

Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.

Complete The Meditation Now
What You Really Feel Meditation
Part 2:
Accompanying Episode

What You Really Feel Meditation

Discover your secure self and you’ll start to release insecurity with the deep process simulation meditation.

Watch The Episode Now
What You Really Feel Meditation
Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

Get FREE Access Now To The

Orphan Archetype Workshop

When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.

The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.

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The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.

Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

Get FREE Access Now To The

King Archetype Workshop

When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.

The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .

Part 3:
Are you ready to go deeper?

Get FREE Access Now To The

Queen Archetype Workshop

You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?

This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.

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