In this session we are investigating, “ Will It Last? How to Trust Happiness.”
The problem is you're suspicious of happiness. The issue is this leaves you numb and cynical, even though you're a positive person. It doesn't have to be like this.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You’re a positive person, so why are you suspicious of happiness?
You see other people being happy - they’re generally positive, they have a happy life.
So why don’t you believe in it?
You hear what they’re saying but you can hear something underneath.
Something that makes you question if that happiness is for real.
Something doesn’t feel quite right.
And more often than not you find out later that you were right!
So why is it you’re suspicious of happiness at face value?
In this session we are investigating, “ Will It Last? How to Trust Happiness.”
We’re looking at:
First of all, you need to recognise the real reason things fall apart
You didn’t suddenly become cynical - you’re a positive person. You enjoy happiness and you like to see the best in people.
Any cynicism on your part grew from experience
One day - perhaps on many days – someone let you down.
It wasn’t in one movement – it was over a period of time.
You didn’t feel listened to. You had to deal with other people’s moods.
You couldn’t do enough, and open, honest communication never really happened.
You felt you were too sensitive and emotional: you felt guilty, stupid even, for feeling connection should be part of happiness.
Things fall apart for all these reasons and all these reasons are linked to one thing.
The feeling of emotional abandonment . . . which becomes co-dependency.
Co-dependency, amongst other things, is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity.
If you look back through your life you’ll spot a pattern where your happiness has been linked to what others think of you, instead of what YOU think of you.
When you shift from happiness linked to what other people think of you to happiness based on what you think of yourself, then you’re able to trust happiness.
This is because your happiness becomes no longer reliant on someone or something else which has been elevated in your mind to a position of authority over you.
Think about the times you give other people permission to determine your happiness.
Why would you do this to yourself?
This is why.
Imagine there are characters in your inner world who talk to you.
These ‘people’ live in your unconscious world, they are part of you, and they are created by mass beliefs, beliefs passed through the generations as well as ones created through your life.
These characters fight all day for your attention. They want you to listen to them, because they see it as their role as to protect you even though what they represent isn’t necessarily relevant to you. They keep you to past beliefs, because “that’s the way it’s always been done”.
You won’t understand this as co-dependence if it’s always been a Thing, because you have never known different way.
The change now is . . . you can FEEL something wants to be different.
This is because now one of those inner characters is trying to communicate their needs, so that you can solve it and move forward.
The character who can’t trust happiness is The Orphan
The Orphan is part of the inner child self. You see it in the behaviour of other people, even if you can’t see it in yourself
An angry Orphan shows in people who fear abandonment but can’t admit it. Instead they work hard to control what happens around them.
Life sometimes kicks sand in your face: it brings into your life a real live person who reflects that issue - if it’s abandonment for instance, they’ll abandon you - literally or emotionally.
You will then assume happiness can’t be trusted – that it’s temporary - it can never last - what makes your happiness will eventually always leave.
The key is to communicate with these inner characters and neutralise the patterns, so that you’re in charge, rather than your unconscious patterns running the show.
It’s hard to trust happiness at the moment, because you have no idea when one of these inner characters might show up and ruin things.
What are the steps you can take to start letting happiness be a real thing that can last?
What I found I got sucked into for a long time was believing I was right to be cynical, and that happiness was an illusion
It’s not true because you don’t have to talk yourself into happiness. You become naturally happily unflappable when you’re in charge of the inner characters. You then don’t fall into fearing you’ll be pulled into a place you can’t escape from. Because co-dependency actually terrifies you: the hold it has over is how you see yourself in relationships.
So what are three little things you can do to minimise co-dependency and increase your trust in happiness?
What’s the problem?
Let your emotional world answer, not your practical self. When you allow your inner self a voice, it stops shouting at you through emotions.
Why can’t it last?
Asking this question takes you into curiosity and out of worry – these two emotions cannot both exist in the same space.
Letting yourself mourn the potential means letting yourself feel, instead of hiding what you HOPED it was.
So how do you do that?
That’s what this session’s meditation is for: Allowing Happiness to Last Meditation
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
In this session we are investigating, “ Will It Last? How to Trust Happiness.”
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
In this session we are investigating, “ Will It Last? How to Trust Happiness.”
The problem is you're suspicious of happiness. The issue is this leaves you numb and cynical, even though you're a positive person. It doesn't have to be like this.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You’re a positive person, so why are you suspicious of happiness?
You see other people being happy - they’re generally positive, they have a happy life.
So why don’t you believe in it?
You hear what they’re saying but you can hear something underneath.
Something that makes you question if that happiness is for real.
Something doesn’t feel quite right.
And more often than not you find out later that you were right!
So why is it you’re suspicious of happiness at face value?
In this session we are investigating, “ Will It Last? How to Trust Happiness.”
We’re looking at:
First of all, you need to recognise the real reason things fall apart
You didn’t suddenly become cynical - you’re a positive person. You enjoy happiness and you like to see the best in people.
Any cynicism on your part grew from experience
One day - perhaps on many days – someone let you down.
It wasn’t in one movement – it was over a period of time.
You didn’t feel listened to. You had to deal with other people’s moods.
You couldn’t do enough, and open, honest communication never really happened.
You felt you were too sensitive and emotional: you felt guilty, stupid even, for feeling connection should be part of happiness.
Things fall apart for all these reasons and all these reasons are linked to one thing.
The feeling of emotional abandonment . . . which becomes co-dependency.
Co-dependency, amongst other things, is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity.
If you look back through your life you’ll spot a pattern where your happiness has been linked to what others think of you, instead of what YOU think of you.
When you shift from happiness linked to what other people think of you to happiness based on what you think of yourself, then you’re able to trust happiness.
This is because your happiness becomes no longer reliant on someone or something else which has been elevated in your mind to a position of authority over you.
Think about the times you give other people permission to determine your happiness.
Why would you do this to yourself?
This is why.
Imagine there are characters in your inner world who talk to you.
These ‘people’ live in your unconscious world, they are part of you, and they are created by mass beliefs, beliefs passed through the generations as well as ones created through your life.
These characters fight all day for your attention. They want you to listen to them, because they see it as their role as to protect you even though what they represent isn’t necessarily relevant to you. They keep you to past beliefs, because “that’s the way it’s always been done”.
You won’t understand this as co-dependence if it’s always been a Thing, because you have never known different way.
The change now is . . . you can FEEL something wants to be different.
This is because now one of those inner characters is trying to communicate their needs, so that you can solve it and move forward.
The character who can’t trust happiness is The Orphan
The Orphan is part of the inner child self. You see it in the behaviour of other people, even if you can’t see it in yourself
An angry Orphan shows in people who fear abandonment but can’t admit it. Instead they work hard to control what happens around them.
Life sometimes kicks sand in your face: it brings into your life a real live person who reflects that issue - if it’s abandonment for instance, they’ll abandon you - literally or emotionally.
You will then assume happiness can’t be trusted – that it’s temporary - it can never last - what makes your happiness will eventually always leave.
The key is to communicate with these inner characters and neutralise the patterns, so that you’re in charge, rather than your unconscious patterns running the show.
It’s hard to trust happiness at the moment, because you have no idea when one of these inner characters might show up and ruin things.
What are the steps you can take to start letting happiness be a real thing that can last?
What I found I got sucked into for a long time was believing I was right to be cynical, and that happiness was an illusion
It’s not true because you don’t have to talk yourself into happiness. You become naturally happily unflappable when you’re in charge of the inner characters. You then don’t fall into fearing you’ll be pulled into a place you can’t escape from. Because co-dependency actually terrifies you: the hold it has over is how you see yourself in relationships.
So what are three little things you can do to minimise co-dependency and increase your trust in happiness?
What’s the problem?
Let your emotional world answer, not your practical self. When you allow your inner self a voice, it stops shouting at you through emotions.
Why can’t it last?
Asking this question takes you into curiosity and out of worry – these two emotions cannot both exist in the same space.
Letting yourself mourn the potential means letting yourself feel, instead of hiding what you HOPED it was.
So how do you do that?
That’s what this session’s meditation is for: Allowing Happiness to Last Meditation
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
In this session we are investigating, “ Will It Last? How to Trust Happiness.”
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
What's coming next might just be the magical missing piece you've been searching for... (No crystal ball required, though they are pretty :)
Every year since 2011, I've guided thousands of Intuitive-Sensitives through understanding and working with the unique energy patterns of each New Year. These transformative workshops combine ancient wisdom with contemporary neuroscience, helping soul seekers navigate their path with greater confidence and clarity.
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
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When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
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