You’re better off working on your own - right? You believe the only person you can trust is yourself. You’re suspicious of offers of help and prefer to be the super-helpful person. But, at the same time, you would love for someone to notice your needs, to notice what you need without your having to spell it out. The question is why is it you can spot what someone else needs but no one can spot it for you?
What if the problem is you can't trust 'teamwork' because you've been dominated? The issue is you feel defensive and rebel. The solution is to have rejection in perspective.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You’re better off working on your own - right? You believe the only person you can trust is yourself. You’re suspicious of offers of help and prefer to be the super-helpful person.
But, at the same time, you would love for someone to notice your needs, to notice what you need without your having to spell it out.
The question is
why is it you can spot what someone else needs
but no one can spot it for you?
In this episode we are resolving:
You’ll discover:
You rebel because fitting in feels small: it feels as though you’re trying to squeeze into a small space but you feel you’re awkwardly wandering with an arm hanging out.
Why? Because the ‘arm’ is your unconscious means of escape. Your ‘arm’ is rebellion. If you’ve got an arm hanging out you can lever your way out.
This is why you were the child who wouldn’t really comply, even when you were the ‘good’ one.
It’s the reason why you’re the one who always did something ‘different’.
You’re the one working on your inner world – no one else around you is doing this.
You’re fine with people, you like people - you help people all the time.
Teamwork irritates you because if you’ve been dominated it’s hard to trust other people.
If you’ve spent a part of your life without the freedom of your own choices or you’ve grown up in a life full of harsh rules you were afraid to break you will assume if you don’t agree with the team you’ll be rejected – and that all teams are unfriendly and you’ve felt you’re better off alone.
As a result, you will unconsciously lean towards unfriendly scenarios or people will assume you’re aloof when you’re really not.
Think of that for a moment – the times you’ve felt subtly excluded, even though perhaps the people involved were not actively excluding you.
The real fear is that if you include yourself you’ll relax and then either domination will creep up on you or you’ll be included but then later suddenly dropped.
You feel this, even if such thoughts are not borne out by your experience, so you stay around situations where you don’t feel you really fit.
You do so by dealing with the fear of potential domination, the times in the past when you have felt rejected for not wanting to be compliant; the times you have felt hurt that your individuality hasn’t been noticed, let alone accepted.
The key is to accept some people only feel safe around those they can rule over.
What I got sucked into for a long time was thinking I had to fit in, and be ruled over
You end up feeling you’re always trying to escape.
That doesn’t work, because those who would happily include you think you don’t want to be there.
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
You’re better off working on your own - right? You believe the only person you can trust is yourself. You’re suspicious of offers of help and prefer to be the super-helpful person. But, at the same time, you would love for someone to notice your needs, to notice what you need without your having to spell it out. The question is why is it you can spot what someone else needs but no one can spot it for you?
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
You’re better off working on your own - right? You believe the only person you can trust is yourself. You’re suspicious of offers of help and prefer to be the super-helpful person. But, at the same time, you would love for someone to notice your needs, to notice what you need without your having to spell it out. The question is why is it you can spot what someone else needs but no one can spot it for you?
What if the problem is you can't trust 'teamwork' because you've been dominated? The issue is you feel defensive and rebel. The solution is to have rejection in perspective.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You’re better off working on your own - right? You believe the only person you can trust is yourself. You’re suspicious of offers of help and prefer to be the super-helpful person.
But, at the same time, you would love for someone to notice your needs, to notice what you need without your having to spell it out.
The question is
why is it you can spot what someone else needs
but no one can spot it for you?
In this episode we are resolving:
You’ll discover:
You rebel because fitting in feels small: it feels as though you’re trying to squeeze into a small space but you feel you’re awkwardly wandering with an arm hanging out.
Why? Because the ‘arm’ is your unconscious means of escape. Your ‘arm’ is rebellion. If you’ve got an arm hanging out you can lever your way out.
This is why you were the child who wouldn’t really comply, even when you were the ‘good’ one.
It’s the reason why you’re the one who always did something ‘different’.
You’re the one working on your inner world – no one else around you is doing this.
You’re fine with people, you like people - you help people all the time.
Teamwork irritates you because if you’ve been dominated it’s hard to trust other people.
If you’ve spent a part of your life without the freedom of your own choices or you’ve grown up in a life full of harsh rules you were afraid to break you will assume if you don’t agree with the team you’ll be rejected – and that all teams are unfriendly and you’ve felt you’re better off alone.
As a result, you will unconsciously lean towards unfriendly scenarios or people will assume you’re aloof when you’re really not.
Think of that for a moment – the times you’ve felt subtly excluded, even though perhaps the people involved were not actively excluding you.
The real fear is that if you include yourself you’ll relax and then either domination will creep up on you or you’ll be included but then later suddenly dropped.
You feel this, even if such thoughts are not borne out by your experience, so you stay around situations where you don’t feel you really fit.
You do so by dealing with the fear of potential domination, the times in the past when you have felt rejected for not wanting to be compliant; the times you have felt hurt that your individuality hasn’t been noticed, let alone accepted.
The key is to accept some people only feel safe around those they can rule over.
What I got sucked into for a long time was thinking I had to fit in, and be ruled over
You end up feeling you’re always trying to escape.
That doesn’t work, because those who would happily include you think you don’t want to be there.
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
You’re better off working on your own - right? You believe the only person you can trust is yourself. You’re suspicious of offers of help and prefer to be the super-helpful person. But, at the same time, you would love for someone to notice your needs, to notice what you need without your having to spell it out. The question is why is it you can spot what someone else needs but no one can spot it for you?
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
In this content-packed, free On-Demand Workshop, you will learn:
Even if you’ve been feeling lost or overwhelmed by your emotions, this workshop will guide you to a place of emotional stability and strength.
When the Magician energy is active, you have the ability to transform reality. It’s as though a magnetic field draws you to experiences that match your inner reality.
The Magician energy chooses you to connect with your healing potential and give you access to the unconscious world of wonderment, charm and the deeply connected spiritual self.
When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
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